Don't STOP Doing Dream Boards or New Year Resolutions!

There are some of you who decided not to create a new vision board or write out goals because you did not gain anything on your vision boards or accomplish your goals last year. Some of you are in the same exact place you were the year before and maybe stepped backwards a few steps. You don’t care to hear or read anything about New Year Resolutions or how others had success with their visions boards. Your decision not to have goals for each year make a lot of sense, especially if you did not accomplish anything on last year. However, this is how a person who lives in doubt thinks.

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Doing vision boards, writing out goals, or creating New Year Resolutions are very valuable because they are excellent tools to teach you how to dream, but not guarantee to give you your dreams. DON’T STOP DOING your vision boards, writing out your goals, New Year Resolutions, or declaring with words what you what to happen in your life, because you need to continue to dream. You need to be able to visualize yourself doing or having what you desire in your life and is one of the FIRST steps of accomplishing your goals, but this is not the ONLY step.

There are more steps and principles you need to learn in order to accomplish what you desire in your life. Yes, there have been situations where people just thought of things and it happened instantly, but many of you lack insight, determination, and have a higher doubt level and need assistance. However, you can reach any goal you desire because the sky is truly the limit. This is not just a saying, but the truth for many and it can be for you too. Look around you, we are able to fly in airplanes and by 2020 or sooner many families will have flying cars. This did not happened because a person JUST drew an airplane or flying car on their vision board, made it one of their goals, or declared it with words. It happened because 1) a person was able to draw it on their vision board (dream it), 2) had the insight with trial and error of the steps of creating the airplane or flying car, and 3) determination to complete the steps (feed their faith and crushed their fears).


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Many of you know and have been encouraged to dream, but lack the faith or don’t know how to feed your faith to help you gain the insight and maintain determination. Most of you only know how to feed your doubt (fears) and not your faith. I want to help you FEED YOUR FAITH and CRUSH your fears as your Inward Core Life Coach not mental health therapist. I can provide Inward Core Life Coaching to anyone by using the Internet. I want to warn you, it will not be easy depending of where you are concerning your doubt level. You will need to do the assessment to determine your faith level and doubt level have tools to help you learn how to feed and maintain your faith. If you will like more information and need help with Feeding Your FAITH and Crush your fears please email me at Nancia.leath@inwardcorehealthcare.com.



Please do what it takes to have a life changing year and not just HOPE for a life change year!


Nancia Leath - Inward Core - THE FIX - Lifestyles (c) 2015 All Rights Reserved


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THE FIX - Lifestyles Presents Andrea Holloman

Nancia Leath, MA LPC NCC, spent time with Andrea Holloman, a musical artist who lives in Tifton, GA. Miss Holloman informed THE FIX - Lifestyles why she sings and provided a practical step of how she overcome her "fears" related to singing. Prepare yourself to hear an angelic voice and please don't forget to leave a comment below - let Andrea know how she encouraged you. You can also win a prize!!! WATCH LIFESTYLES HERE

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THE FIX - Lifestyles are so excited about the month of July! Great information and prizes. Make sure you mark your calenders!!

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Do You Fit The Stereotypes Of Poor People?

“Poor People are Substance Abusers!” 
"People Who Have a Low-Income spend their money frivolities and are unwise with their budgets!"

“Poor People Are Ineffective and Inattentive Parents”  

"Poor People Are Linguistically Deficient and Poor Communicators" 

"Poor People Do Not Value Education" 

"Poor People are Lazy" 

People with low-incomes or "poor people" are stereotyped in innumerable ways (Williams, 2009). Below are few stereotypes and facts (the first 5) taken from a book called “Reaching and Teaching Students in Poverty: Strategies for Erasing the Opportunity Gap,” by Paul C. Gorski, associate professor of integrative studies at George Mason University. The book, which draws from years of research to analyze educational practices that undercut the achievement of low-income students, is part of the Multicultural Education Series of books edited by James A. Banks and published by Teachers College Columbia University. Please like their Facebook HERE!

Stereotype 1: Poor People Are Substance Abusers

FACT: Low-income people in the U.S. are less likely to use or abuse alcohol than their wealthier counterparts (Galea et al, 2007; Keyes & Hasin, 2008; NSDUH, 2004). Interestingly, this pattern is consistent internationally. Around the world, alcohol use and addiction are associated positively with income; in other words, the higher somebody’s income, the more likely he is to use alcohol or to be an alcoholic (Degenhardt et al, 2008).

Stereotype 2: Poor People Do Not Value Education

FACT: The evidence, in fact, suggests that attitudes about the value of education among families in poverty are identical to those among families in other socioeconomic strata. In other words, poor people, demonstrating impressive resilience, value education just as much as wealthy people (Compton-Lilly, 2003; Grenfell & James, 1998).

Stereotype 3: Poor People Are Linguistically Deficient and Poor Communicators

FACT: Studies have shown that low-income people communicate with the same sophistication as their wealthier peers. For example, Mary Ohmer and her colleagues (2010) studied the communication strategies used by members of a low-income, predominantly African American community who had assembled to confront a variety of neighborhood problems. They documented how people at these gatherings discussed and modeled complex communication techniques that could help them address these problems effectively with their neighbors.

Stereotype 4: Poor People Are Ineffective and Inattentive Parents

FACT: Researchers routinely have found that low-income parents and guardians are extremely attentive to their children’s needs despite the many barriers they must overcome to provide for their families. This is no less true for poor single mothers, who often are the most scorned targets of the “bad parent” stereotype. We already established, for instance, that poor single mothers overwhelmingly claim a sense of responsibility for inspiring their children to pursue higher education. More broadly speaking, when Robert Hawkins (2010) used a variety of qualitative research techniques to examine how 20 formerly homeless single mothers use their social networks to improve their lives, he found that they prioritized the wellbeing of their children in virtually every decision they made. He also found that they were not shy about seeking the help they needed to provide a good life for their children, even when doing so made them vulnerable or uncomfortable.

Stereotype 5: Poor People Are Lazy

FACT: The truth is, there is no indication that poor people are lazier or have weaker work ethics than people from other socioeconomic groups (Iversen & Farber, 1996; Wilson, 1997). To the contrary, all indications are that poor people work just as hard as, and perhaps harder than, people from higher socioeconomic brackets (Reamer, Waldron, Hatcher, & Hayes, 2008). In fact, poor working adults work, on average, 2,500 hours per year, the rough equivalent of 1.2 full time jobs (Waldron, Roberts, & Reamer, 2004), often patching together several part-time jobs in order to support their families. People living in poverty who are working part-time are more likely than people from other socioeconomic conditions to be doing so involuntarily, despite seeking full-time work (Kim, 1999).

Stereotype 6: Low-income people enrolled in government programs spend the money on frivolities and are unwise with their budgets

FACT: According to an analysis by the Bureau of Labor Statistics families who receive public benefits such as housing assistance, welfare cash assistance, food stamps, Medicaid, and Social Security Income (SSI) for the disabled or low-income elderly have much smaller spending budgets than those who don’t receive benefits and spend a bigger portion on the basics such as food, housing, and transportation

The purpose for this note is to help STOP the stereotypes we have for "poor" or people with low-incomes. Most of us can learn a lot from a person who can live off a small amount of money. Seek to admire, learn from all, and not discount differences because you never know what role you will play in your future.

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"Gender Bias" By Wray Faulkner, BS, RN

I have had the honor of practicing nursing for nearly twenty years.

I would like to share my journey as a male nurse in a profession dominated by women. My aunt influenced me to be a nurse. She actually practiced for many years as an operating room nurse. Hearing her many stories ignited an interest that was fulfilled many years later. As early as my first day of nursing school, I realized there were many stereotypes associated with being a male nurse. Often, people place the profession of nursing into one small box; however, it is so much more diverse.

Contrary to stereotypes, men do possess the care and concern, as well as, the gentle touch needed in a caring profession such as nursing. Unlike stereotypes suggest, all men are not in the profession just because of the competitive compensation. Like me, many men joined the profession out of a true desire to help others. When I decided to become a nurse I even had peers that questioned my decision, stating that nursing was not for men and that it was “weak” for a man to be a nurse. Since that time, many of those same peers have inquired as to how they too could become a nurse and several have actually become nurses. Sadly, I have also experienced gender bias amongst those in the profession as well. I’ve held several positions in which I had to literally prove myself to other nurses and physicians that I was serious about my career choice and qualified to perform at a level of excellence.

Males entering the profession of nursing have actually been an asset in many ways. One major asset is that nursing has seen an increase in pay scales since becoming inundated by men. Men joining the profession of nursing have also brought about a level of diversity awareness like never before. Non-traditional nursing roles are now more prevalent as a result of men joining the profession.

There are some things such as gender bias and stereotypes that I would love to see changed as a male nurse. However, the positives definitely outweigh the negatives. I joined this profession because I care and at the end of each day I return home with self-fulfillment because I know that I have helped someone else, as well as, my profession as a whole. I realize that the nursing profession is benefited because I am a part of it and I commit to keep the banner raised and operate with a spirit of excellence. I choose to allow the challenges to catapult me to the next level.

Written By Wray Falkner, BS RN - Rocky Mount, North Carolina
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Transition Into A Teenager Ceremony

Many people have big parties for their youth on their 16^th Birthday, which I think is awesome and needed for our children to know they are appreciated and feel more empowered. My husband and I decided to do something special for their 13^th birthday too. One of our daughters was born June 8, 2001 at 4:01 pm, so this year she turned 13.  Brooke has had 4 celebrations because she likes to celebrate like her mother (smiles). I will like to discuss one of the celebrations in this post, because maybe you can do something similar with your son or daughter to help them continue to dream and believe. My husband and I are Christians so this particular celebration focused on using verses from the Bible to help our daughter understand who she is, what to expect, and how to push through during tough times in her life as she matures. Plus advice from people who are doing what my daughter desires to do when she becomes an adult.

The theme of this celebration was centering on of her becoming a Medical Doctor. Ever since she could talk she wanted to be a doctor in order to fulfill her passions of helping those in need physically. For her 11^th Birthday she encouraged our family to visit Bodies, because looking at dead bodies in a museum fascinated her. Plus she was in the process of learning the parts of the heart, brain, lungs, etc.  Anyway, this particular celebration being discussed consisted of people we know love our daughter, believe in our daughter, and was willing to invest and pray for our daughter. Plus people in the medical field that knew and experienced becoming a doctor. So we purposely only invited a few people to this birthday connection and only told a few people about this birthday celebrations. However, we had different birthday celebrations so all who wanted to celebrate with her could.

Things we needed for this birthday celebration

-13 Medical Doctors (you may have lawyers, music artists, teachers, or physical therapists)

-13 People who believed, loved, and prayed for our child

-White doctor coat; plus put her name with the M.D. at the end

-Location that flows with your theme (hospital)

-Yellow roses for center table (her favorite color and flower- you may use something different if you have a son)

-Birthday cake

-Cake plates, napkins, silverware

-13 Cards for advices from professionals (you can be very creative and create your own cards)

-Select 13 quotes you will like your child to think and believe

-13 frames

-Photographer/video person

Step 1

Decide on day, time, and location.

Step 2

We created a card with pictures of her from birth to her current state for the 13 doctors to write their advice on.

Step 3

We spoke with 13 Medical Doctors and asked them to write things they felt our daughter needed to know in order to become a great doctor. This process took about 2 weeks. It took eight doctors 10 minutes to write their note, because they wanted to make sure their advice would help our child thrive. One doctor said, “This is an honor.” It was easy for us to connect with doctors because we know and work with doctors all the time.  However, if your son want to become a fireman, this may be difficult if you don’t personally know one. I recommend going to your local fire station and ask. Most people would love it and feel honored. You will give these cards with the advice at the birthday celebration as a gift (view video to understand when).

Step 4

Invite the 13 people you trust to invest, believe, and pray for your child. Make sure you invite at least 20 people, because most likely all will not be able to attend. Your goal is 13. (View video to understand how these people will participate in the celebration).

Step 5

Identify 13 quotes you will like your child to remember and know.  Print 13 statements out for birthday celebration (Your 13 invites will tell your child these statements – view video of how this is done).

Step 6

Order your cake or food you will like to serve and buy other products you need to serve food/cake – have a blast!

Review this video to see how it was done - HERE or view below– If there are 2 parents =1 parent can be at the beginning or one at the end or both parents can be at the end if they assign someone to start it. If there is only 1 parent – that person will need to be at the end of the line. Please enjoy and if you have any questions please email them to Nancia.leath@inwardcorehealthcare.com. 

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Lifestyle in Seoul, South Korea by Phylissia Allmond

Welcome to Seoul, South Korea

Have you ever thought about what it would be like to live in Korea? Well…I am here to share with you (very briefly) what it is like to live here in Korea. I have been in Seoul, South Korea for almost six years. My husband, son and I came here from Virginia back in July 2008. This was due to my husband serving our great nation in the U.S. Army. We thought we were only going to be here for two years but two turned into three and now, here we are. Since 2008, a lot has happen in our lives. We were blessed to have our daughter, Desiree’ here in a Korean hospital. That was a very pleasant experience! Another wonderful thing to happen was my husband retiring after serving 22 years in the Army. Outside of our secular jobs, we pastor a small but growing church in a local Korean community.

Living Arrangements in Seoul

Seoul is considered to be the third largest city in the world and it does show. Due to so many people living here, there are very, very few places here in the city where you can live in a house with a front and backyard. You have to live in a high rise. There are many apartment buildings here with 20 floors or higher. Where we live, we are on the 15th floor. We park our cars in an underground parking garage and when we have groceries, we use a shopping cart to help us transport our groceries to the house via an elevator. Once we are finished, we take the cart back downstairs in case someone else may need it. We don’t have Central Air/Heat. Our air conditioners are built in the ceiling. They are very good. Most Koreans do not use their air conditioner because it can be very expensive so, they either keep their windows open or use a high powered fan to cool off. As for how to heat the floors in the winter time, we have heated floors. This comes from a Korean tradition. The control panel for this is on the wall of every room and you can use this to set the temperature in each room. Another difference is the way Koreans do laundry. Most of the time, they will either wash their clothes in a very small wash machine or wash their clothes by hand and hang them up on a clothes line that is in the laundry room. Very seldom do they use a dryer to dry clothes. This is due to them thinking it being expensive to do so. Another difference is the stove/oven. When you visualize this, you think of it being either gas or electric with a big oven to cook cakes and turkeys for Thanksgiving. Well…they don’t cook items like this all the time so, their ovens are very small (compared to what ours look like). At Thanksgiving or special events, we have to keep the size of our ovens in mind because if it is too big, we will not be able to cook what we need. If you live outside of Seoul, a person may be able to get a house but they have to keep in mind that some Koreans do not sleep in beds; they prefer to sleep on the floor. This is especially true in the winter time because the floors are nice and warm from the heat.

Driving in Korea 

Driving in Korea is very different than driving in the states. As a matter of fact, some of my friends are scared to drive off of the military base. It took me three years to drive to really have the courage to do this myself. Although there are rules in place, sometimes they are not followed. I remember the first time I drove off base and I stopped at the red-light because the light was red. The person behind me blew their horn because they wanted me to go. I didn’t move and they went around me and drove off. You may ask why they did that. They did this because even though the light was red, no one was coming and in their mind, it was okay to “run the red light.” So…you have to be very attentive while driving here (at least in Seoul). If you are driving in other parts of Korea, it is almost like driving in the states. People follow rules and it is not as hectic.

Food 

Prior to us coming here, my husband took me to a Korean restaurant. The purpose of this was to prepare me for the food. Although they eat pork, chicken and beef, Koreans eat rice with everything and put a red spicy paste on their rice. They also eat kimchi which is fermented cabbage and other vegetables like cucumbers. Although some people don’t care for the smell, it is very healthy. They also eat a lot of vegetables and noodles like chop chae. They normally make this spicy as well.



Church 

South Korea is changing. Although you still have some here who are Buddhist, there are many Koreans here who are Christians. They want to know about God so much that some churches here have services every morning prior to work or prayer and Bible Study throughout the week. They also have multiple services on Sundays. The largest church in the world is here with almost 1,000,000 members. I have attended this church more than once and the people literally “run” to church. And as one Elder told me: “When coming to this church, if you are 15 minutes early, you are 15 minutes late!” So, it is very important to get there more than enough time. They have a special section for foreigners. While in the service, you can get the sermon translated into your language.


Education

Education is VERY important to Koreans. They believe it is vital for their children to study so they can get accepted into a good college in the United States. They strongly believe in studying, reading and always staying ahead of what is taught in class. I remember one of my students asking me for every ISBN number for all of our textbooks. When I asked him why, he said his grandmother wanted to purchase all of the books and have him to read every page of all the books and do every Math problem. This can be stressful for them but because they highly esteem adults and the elderly, they respect their wishes and do as they are told.

Conclusion

This is a very brief description of what it is like to live in Korea. I truly thank God for allowing us to live here in this wonderful country. South Korea has “come a long way” because they have gone through so much historically. Because of what occurred with fights between other nations in times past, Koreans work extremely hard and believe education is “a way out.” They make their children study extra-long hours and stress the importance of making good grades. Most Koreans consider it a high honor to attend college in the United States. If accepted, they attend college in the United States and later return home to “give back” to their nation. Americans have a great partnership with Koreans and they are very friendly. Part of this partnership is to invite Koreans over for an American meal and vice versa. I have learned that if you have a Korean friend, you have a friend for life. They will treat you like family and will always “look out for you” no matter what.

Phylissia Allmond

Resources
1. http://english.fgtv.com/ (Yoido Full Gospel Church)
2. http://www.snuh.org/english/ (Seoul National University Hospital – my daughter was born here)
3. http://www.army.mil/yongsan (Where we are station – Yongsan Garrison)
4. http://asiasociety.org/education/learning-world/south-korean-education%20 (South Korean Education)
5. http://english.visitkorea.or.kr/enu/1051_Food.jsp (Korean Food)
6. http://www.move2korea.com/shop/item.php?it_id=1083 (Sample of Apartment in Seoul)

Written by Phylissia Allmond - All rights Reserved (c) 2014 Inward Core, THE FIX

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